Ed Grimmly

Hello, Sunday. Hello, friends.

I've had such a nice weekend. I was low energy on Friday morning. I sent a text to Sarah requesting a reschedule with an overnight with W. and a date with LP on Saturday. I'd shoehorned way too many things in Fri-Sun and decided to ask for some Grace. Thankfully, grace received. It's one of my pet peeves to cancel things at nearly the last minute. I hate being the recipient and I hate being the canceller. But, this time I'm glad I did. I like being fully present to W. when we have our time together, same with LP. She doesn't really let it be any other way so I don't have to worry about that too much, but still. Anyway, thank you Sarah. I can't wait to be with the kids in a couple weeks.

Creating that room gave me some time to myself on either side of a few things that I was committed to and didn't cancel. Some unexpected things crept in.

I made a new friend this year. I've loved his writing for a long time and then I happily found out I like him just as much or more than his writing (depends on the book - smile). We talked on the phone briefly on Saturday morning. My phone log says 13 minutes. He wrote me a e-mail with a list of things he wanted to talk about. Hello, a list? That's one of my top five love languages. And we covered it all and more, with laughter and some tenderness, in less than a quarter hour. I felt like I went to the doctor and got a B-12 shot in the arm. Thank you, Robert. You're an unexpected gift in many ways. I'm not taking you for granted.

I'm sure R. was happy because he met a much nicer version of his girlfriend in the alley on Saturday morning that he did on Thursday morning when we met for coffee before work. I'm really good at being a freaked out ass. R's nice about it and calls it prickly. As in, after receiving my verbal, eye contact apology, "ya, you were a prickly pear." God bless him. We ended up extending our visitation hours on Saturday and went to the library and then some rice and beans for dinner. At the end of our date I was telling him I wanted to get a haircut this week and he said really, you just got it cut like a week ago. Then he looked at me and said well it is getting a little tall in the front, Ed Grimmly, complete with hand motions around the top of his head. Who's Ed Grimmly I asked? Well, we whipped out the iPhone and I found out. "Babe!@# That's not how I look, is it?" and then I laughed my ass off watching Martin Short as Ed Grimmly. That picture up top is me this morning at the coffee shop. I can't really argue with him - no product required for that lift. My boyfriend is pretty funny, he's actually very funny and fun loving. One of the things I really value and it felt so good to laugh together for most of the afternoon. I feel like I've grabbed the brass ring when I make him laugh really hard. I scored at picnic table - he almost had to spit out his beverage. Success! April wasn't an easy month, but it was very rich. I wouldn't want to have a non-easy month with anyone else.

JV and I decided to meet at a coffee shop this morning with our laptops, share a table and get some of our to-do lists done in good company. Whatever. What a mass rationalization to have an awesome, long conversation and never pull our laptops out of the bag. The last time we were together a few weeks ago we were some trouble makers with a capital T. It's probably good we didn't pull the laptops out of our bags. As R. says "there might not have been responsible use of the internet." Love you walking man. I think we did o.k. this time. Missed you, Jordan.

So now I'm off to church stopping for communion bread along the way. I could sit here all day, but I'm thankful for the 30 minutes I've had with you all. More to come. I scanned in a bunch of images this morning and I've had a list going for weeks of things I want to write about.

Thanks for sticking with me.

Love to you all. Praying you all get a good shot in the arm this week and some probably much needed rest.